The last post was posted because my mother-in-law Virginia has been dying of cancer. When I called tonight to talk to her she stated she didn’t feel like talking. I know she has not eaten in almost 3 weeks. She has decreased in weight and it is not much different than what would have happened as the Cancer progressed. I know it has had to have been hard for her to make the decisions she has made, but I have to believe it is for the best. I only hope I can talk to her one more time before the end. In case I can’t. I want to let her know how proud I am of the strength she has had over the years. She has had cancer return at least 6 times and this final one she just was unable to win. They did a terrific job bringing her up and I could not have ever found a better wife. They have had many successes in their lives, but most of them have been forgotten over the years. I am not sure if she feels her oldest daughter is one of her greatest accomplishments, but it is if you ask me. I want to thank her and her husband Melvin (died in 1995) for their daughter Susan. Melvin we miss you. Mom you will be missed. Love you both. Good bye. :((

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When dying with cancer, what is the “right” thing to do. Should you get as much care as you can to keep you alive until your body finally can not function any longer? Do you use all modern technology to keep you alive until the cancer finally wins? Who has the right to make these decisions, the cancer patient or the family? Why does the family want to make a decision that will impact the patient if the patient can make the decision themselves? The article has good points and I am sure everyone will not agree. I myself feel that the choice is up to the patient! if they have the capacity to refuse food and still drink enough to have a less painful death, good for them. They were able to make a personal decision of how they want to die. Mom, we love you and when you are ready, just let go. 😥